"What made you think I was here to fulfill your needs?
Oh, no ~laughs~… your needs mean nothing to me… you're here to fulfill my wants…
and right now I want to see how sore those balls can get - Orgasm Denial"
Continuing from Thoughts on Tease and Denial
Orgasm denial, as mentioned before, is quite similar to tease and denial in basic form, excepting that, as the name and emphasis suggests, its tone can be more harsh and its conclusion even more certain (unless the subject doesn't know what's in store for him), and it can also be a much longer termed condition. It's usually sought by those who desire this conclusion, wanting and enjoying the resulting sexual frustration and feelings of submission / masochism that occur. This causes the tease to usually have a more cruel undertone to it, not just when its actively harsh and nasty, but even when its outwardly soft and sensual.
As a form of sexual play, orgasm denial is often carried out over numerous sessions (or as a semi-constant state), each building on top of the other in a sort of taunting, teasing chastity that can impose a brutally harsh form of sexual frustration on the submissive.
Chastity routines and devices are sometimes employed in compliment to long term orgasm denial, completely removing the possibility of direct genital stimulation. From there the dominant woman can choose to refrain from any form of tease at all, taking denial to an absolute form in that the sexuality of the submissive is denied entirely… or she can tease the subject in other ways - verbal, visual, other non-genital physical, etc.
In the case of the dominant woman who completely ignores the sexuality of her subject, locking away his genitalia, the submissive is made to experience a kind of objectification and dehumanization through that effective removal of his sexuality - an intrinsic part of one's humanity - which naturally causes his submission to more heavily upon him. Orgasm isn't simply denied, it's no longer a consideration. He becomes a sexual non-entity… something less than a man and thus more the slave.
She who chooses alternate forms of teasing while having the submissive locked in chastity, can impose an even more excruciating style of Tease and Denial by combining the tease effect with the physical removal of possible genital contact. Rejection isn't just something anticipated now, with fulfillment in orgasm still being hoped for… application of a chastity device can effectively kill hopes, causing tease to be seen and felt even more as torture.
As a lifestyle dominatrix, who deeply enjoys my sexuality and my natural tendencies towards female domination in all situations, particularly sexual ones… I think it only obvious why Tease and Denial, and for that matter Orgasm Denial, would hold such an appeal to me.
How do I commonly partake in these forms of orgasm control? That really depends on the person and my mood at the time. I am very focused in my actions, intending to get as much personal enjoyment as possible out of what I do and who I do it to ~grinz~. I often mix very strict and focused, with darkly seductive - intense teasing with a nasty erotic edge. Sometimes sadistic, sometimes almost affectionate, sometimes coldly nothing at all… but everything played to manipulate my victim and further my control over him. My fetish for chastity and related devices only gives me more options in the course I choose to take, and my past experience in key holding only makes it all the easier for me to tighten my fist around the sexuality of my captive.
In the end, Tease and Denial is a part of all my femdom activities to some degree… simply because it's so easily and obviously is a part of all female domination / submission equations that involve sexuality. Domination is all about control, and the manipulation of another's sexuality is an excellent means to acheiving this. Actual Orgasm Denial as the primary intention, in terms of fetish or style of play, isn't always the focus of what I do, but the play of frustration and fulfillment is a beautifully powerful tool that is greatly enjoyed by any lifestyle dominatrix who has happily embraced the sadism within ~laughs~.
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"Why do they say I'm a Dark Seductress?
Maybe it's because I know how to use my beautiful young body…
and my perverse mind… to torture and contol any man I choose - Tease and Denial"
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As always I loved reading your blog post Domina. When I look at your pictures, hear your voice, or read your thoughts….every second of it I’m aroused…I’m helplessly spellbound and know how easily you control me. And you’re absolutely right…your sexuality…your seductiveness is a powerful weapon that immediately disarms even the most stubborn of slaves. After that he doesn’t stand a chance!
A spellbound and lusting Slaveboy Smith
You are certainly a Dark Seductress, Domina Amanda. Tease and denial play with you builds up such a powerful orgasm. Going without release is brutal to me though. “Sometimes sadistic, sometimes almost affectionate, sometimes coldly nothing at all… but everything played to manipulate my victim and further my control over him.” I love your moods LOL. I can’t wait to read the chastity stories you were talking of to me ::hint hint smiles::
Excellent. I love this topic and love your thoughts on it. I like tease and denial more than orgasm denial becaseu I like the chance of orgasm at the end, and I know with you that orgasm denial means exactly that. Such a cruel cock controlling Domina. The last time you teased me for 2 hours and then said no I thought I would die. The days after I swear my balls were sore for 3 days after. Thank goodness I had another chance to call and you decided I could have a chance to earn release.