"I'm going to play with you until you squirm and beg…
and then I'm going to keep right on doing it until you gasp and cry - it's too much…
and then… well, we'll just have to see what I do then - Tease and Denial"
Do these words sound good to you… tease and denial? They do to me ~grinz~.
The word tease, in this context, essentially means behavior intending to arouse sexual desire in another person, hinting at the possibility of satisfaction and building up hopes for such, but ultimately not fulfilling what is suggested… resulting in frustration and disappointment in the one being teased.
When used to describe someone - a "tease" is a person, usually female, who intentionally preys on the sexual desires of another, manipulating this as a means of influencing that person. While the "tease" is the one being pursued or performing, she is also the one in control, since the desires she invokes can easily be used as a tool for domination. The more intense the arousal, the greater the hope for fulfillment… leading to the other's desperation becoming more intense, and with this, the greater her control.
Denial, in blunt terms, is the refusal to allow something that is desired. In this context, sexual fulfillment of some form, ranging from the most basic forms of attention and approval, all the way to orgasm itself.
When used in relation to the sexual act, denial is the refusal of one person to fulfill the sexual arousal of another. Just as the word itself is blunt in its meaning, so too is denial in the sexual sense, especially when its comes to orgasm denial (this form of play usually having a prelude of some kind of sexual act that builds the strong need for orgasm over time, only to be shut down repeatedly in rejection).
When brought together, tease and denial is form of sexual play focused on the manipulation of another person with the intent to cause intense stimulation but without the promise of orgasm. Instead, the goal is to "edge" - keeping the subject on the edge of orgasm without actually going over into climax. This leaves the person in a heightened state of arousal and excitement, but mixed with a growing frustration and helplessness as the effect of the "edging" denial builds. In the end, release may be allowed, but just as often is not.
The result is a clear power exchange, putting the "tease" in the position of domination, while the one facing denial is put into a position of submission to the control of the person determining his sexual fate. When performed over time, through multiple sessions, the impact of this control device becomes all the stronger, and with it, the domination of the "tease" over the denied submissive. Skillful manipulation of arousal, hope and frustration by the dominant woman further deepens the subject's degree of submission and recognition of it.
Tease and denial doesn't always have to end in orgasm denial (which is itself the title of a form of sexual play whose conclusion is more certain). While the name suggests this to be the expected result, orgasm is sometimes allowed either in its ruined form, or as a surprise ending.
Unexpected fulfillment is actually a means to achieve greater control over the subject. If the ending is always certain, then the conclusion is always anticipated. But if orgasm is occasionally allowed, especially when the desperate hope for release has been greatly built up, while the person still doubts it will happen due to past experience… then the impact and appreciation of the reward will be magnified, and with it the control over the person by the "tease". Also, skillful and prolonged teasing just prior to allowed fulfillment usually leads to a much stronger orgasm than normal… not just in terms of the psychological relief, but actual physical enjoyment due to the built up intensity and volume of fluid released.
A ruined orgasm is a more devious form of disappointment which can cause even greater sexual frustration than tease and denial. In a ruined orgasm, the subject is led to believe that the hoped for ejaculation is going to be allowed, right up to the point of the climax actually beginning… and then sexual stimulation is abruptly and completely withdrawn at that very moment, resulting in the first seconds of the orgasm being as good as expected, but then it dying quickly from lack of attention. Thus, the orgasm is ruined, with only a fraction of the anticipated enjoyment being had, which makes the disappointment and resulting sexual frustration all the worse (to say the least of physical discomfort).
Continued in - Thoughts on Orgasm Denial
Domina Amanda
Female Domination Phone Sex - 1-800-356-6169
"It's time for some very strict and demanding orgasm control…
I see no reason to let you cum… and after all, this isn't about what you want…
it's only about what I enjoy… and right now, I like seeing you suffer - Orgasm Denial"
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Sorry I’ve been away. I’m glad I have so much to come back to! Plenty to read and excellent topics. This is a kick ass pair of essays on Tease and Denial, and Orgasm Denial. What the general expression for the two? Erotic Denial or Orgasm Control?
Applauds my favotire topic. Not that I dont have otehrs that are very close to favorite. I am so happy you wrote so much about these themes recently. Now I am all worked up lol. thank you very much Domina Amanda.