"Thigh high leather boots… long leather gloves…

A tall, beautiful dominatrix, dressed exactly as fits her personality…

Ready to force you into submission… ready to make you her slave - Female Domination"

(continuing…) In my last post I may have given the impression that I think many of the protocols and practices followed by certain BDSM groups are ridiculous… if I did, then good because that is how I feel… but not in an irresponsible or selfish way (I don't feel all presented concepts are stupid, especially basic safety and sensibility). I'll explain more…
 
Do I encourage people who are interested in BDSM to take that first step and become involved in what so intrigues them - meaning both BDSM and the surrounding community?
 
Of course I do… with each passing year it becomes more clear to each of us that our lives don't last forever. It makes no sense to waste what time you get not doing what may make you happy.
 
But do I encourage these same people to immediately jump full into what it is that they think will make them happy?
 
Not at all.
 
As with most anything… you never "jump"… you look, listen, and take steps into things… steps turning into strides when your stance is more certain. Not only does "jumping" potentially get you hurt… you also learn a lot less when you rush head first into something… excepting perhaps a harsh lesson in what not to do, when you crash into a "wall" or worse.
 
It doesn't matter how dominant a person you think yourself to naturally be, you don't know everything. Taking things slow and learning isn't an act of submission… it's deference to those more experienced, and it's directly in line with the dominant mentality - strive to become more - in this case by learning and becoming the best you can at what you've chosen to do, though self-control and intelligent approach.
 
The same holds true for the submissive and slave. As much as you may wish to throw yourself at someone… throw yourself at the wrong person, and instead of getting what you’ve always dreamed of, you might end up ruining the fantasy you so long imagined.
 
Playing around with things on a basic level is one thing… but once you start going deeper into a fetish, particularly if it's one incorporating BDSM's sadomasochistic activities, you really do need to look before you leap, and understand before you attempt. People get too easily hurt otherwise, emotionally if not physically… and while abuse of a form is what is often being sought, there are two different kinds being spoken of here. Everything has a line, and one can only learn how to keep within that if they first take the time to learn. This is particularly so with sadism and masochism, because the skill is in riding that line… moving around within its bounds in response to the moment, but keeping control of the situation so as to exploit it but not ruin it (for the sadist that is…. for the masochist it's finding someone responsible who is capable of doing such, so you can let yourself go under their control and allow them to take you where you both want to go).
 
If the point was to just go around getting cheap thrills out of hurting people, I suppose I never would have grown up. I would have instead just stayed the mean little bully girl I was as a kid. Instead… I went through puberty like everyone else ~laughs~ and started to find ways to enjoy myself far better than just making boys cry… now I get that out of men, but in far more "skillful" ways ~grinz evil~.
 
In my own case… I didn't rush into BDSM at all. When I was young I just naturally started doing basic things in my own relationships… things that fit my personality and my inclinations, both sexual and in general. But as I started getting deeper into the actual BDSM scene, I met up with an exceptional young lady of great experience that I become very close to (more here My Early Days of BDSM). A dominatrix herself, and some years older than me - I had the opportunity to learn and to refine my natural talents as an apprentice to her, developing my knowledge through direct participation and observance in her femdom sessions (though never through submission). She believes much the same way as I do about things, particularly about female domination, nature and place… I suppose that is why we got along so well, both in and out of bed. (Continued…)

Domina Amanda

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Continued in Part XXXVII - BDSM Dominatrix

"Yes, stupid… she's cheating on you…

and yes, you know why… it's because your small penis is such a bad joke…

Do you blame her? No one wants to fuck you, there is nothing worth having there…

People only want to use you and laugh at you - Cuckold Slave"