"Whether it's a quick does of discipline, or a long femdom session…

I just get off on controlling men from all around the world…

There are those face to face… and those who call me - Female Domination Phone Sex"

As many kinks as there are which fall under the heading of BDSM, there are even more opinions on how things should be done and why they are… from the most basic technical, all the way up to deeply philosophical. Since there is no one sourcebook that all of this is based upon, individuals and groups within the BDSM community, go their own way… with some general agreement with regard to responsible behavior and overall tolerance, but everyone having their own overall "opinon".
 
Personally, I've found the sum of these opinions to be a mixed bag - some great, some okay for others, yet not for me, and some flat out stupid. This is particularly true when we come back to the paradox I've been talking of recently - there are many beliefs held by certain portions of the BDSM community that true dominant personalities not only would not agree with, but at times find flat out ridiculous. Sometimes I think the intentions are good ones, regardless of the results… but other times I am reminded of how the weak often attempt to empower themselves and their wants through some sort of legislation ~laughs~… trying to corral the strong to fit what is comfortable to for their inferiors by using mass agenda and oft point to declarations.
 
One concept that comes to mind right away is the notion that a "dominant" has to experience things first as a "submissive" to "know what it's like to be the bottom." I suppose that's all well and good if you are a fetish role-player, especially one into sadism and masochism - it makes sense that if you see the other side you can better relate to it and better understand limits/effects… so for those thinking that way, for that reason, no complaints from me because we aren't "into" this for quite the same motivations and your viewpoint fits your specific wants. But the "dominant" I am referring to - the true dominant personality - just has no interest in, or stomach for, the idea of submitting in any way. The idea isn't so much uncomfortable as it's more offensive, or just plain irrelevant, never coming to mind and being dismissed as a bad joke if suggested. And sexually… it's a heavy turn-off, bordering on repulsive. Like everything else, one's sexuality is linked directly to one's personality and fundamental nature. If female domination is your life path, submission to another person is a reversal in your life's growth… something not just wrong, but to be avoided since it isn't who you are (the BDSM player crowd confuses that because they arent talking about the same thing I am - they are focused on their sex play… fine for you, but not for all).
 
Some try to say things like - "if you are dominant than you should be strong enough to submit and handle being dominated by another"… but that just ends up being proof of the convoluted nonsense and double speak that feeds the paradox I've been speaking of… some sort of re-valuation of the greater idea of "dominant" to fit the wants of people who fall short of the word's deeper meaning. Why would I lower myself from what I am, when I am happy with the person I am, and happy existing within the truth of myself and my instincts.
 
The weak always try to empower their ideas by saying that if you don't do what they do, or agree with what they believe, you must somehow be afraid. I don’t like lima beans… but trust me, I don't have nightmares about them… they just aren't me… and I don't have to eat a bowl of them to re-convince myself of that, or prove myself to any dim witted nobody ~laughs~.
 
Personally, I have never had the urge to not be in control sexually. I've been in, shall we say, "neutral" positions - like when I have had sex with another dominant female - where the two of us enjoy one another on somewhat equal terms… but in those cases none of what domination and submission brings to mind is involved. It's just heavy, intense, lesbian sex - just imagine a pair of dominant women fucking each other hard and you've got the idea. But submission… dominant individuals like myself are not drawn to such things. And when it comes to men, all of my sexual urges are driven by domination alone. (Continued…)

Domina Amanda

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Continued in Part XXXVI - Lifestyle Dominatrix

"I love all kinds of BDSM play… but there's one that is simple in form…

and yet excellent in the results a skillful female can work up - Tease and Denial"