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(…continuing from Sexual Domination I) While I am on the topic… something else about the use of lifestyle, at least in some of the ways it's used within the BDSM community. I don't really see BDSM itself as a "lifestyle", or for that matter the fetish interests that are often linked to this word either. To me, as much as I enjoy BDSM and it truly is a major part of my life, a "lifestyle" covers more than what falls under the heading of a collection of kinks, no matter how much you enjoy them or are involved in them. Kinks are things you do… they alone aren't who you are. Particular interest in one fetish might give an indication as to the nature of the person so enjoying, along with suggestions as to their standards and tastes, but in and of itself, a kink alone isn't "you" or how you live. Nope, it's not.
 
I can see D/s (a relationship based on Domination / submission) as being lifestyle-ish, if it's truly that serious and consistent, and not simply an often enjoyed sexual fetish - for example, what I said earlier about Lifestyle Dominant and all that. Lifestyle for me is literally the way you live… all the time… and it must be coupled with a personal philosophy that defines itself in a consistent, all encompassing manner - your behavior in all settings, driven by a core set of values and unified mindset. How you live your life, and the why behind that how (yes, I like the more old-fashioned dictionary definition of "lifestyle", than the modern overused catch-all)… not just how you enjoy sex sometimes, or what you dream yourself to be (people dream of many things, that doesn't mean the dream is who they really are - people wish they were rock stars and famous baseball players… so what, they aren't, that's the difference between dream and reality… just because you wish you were something you werent and think you'd be happier that way, doesnt mean that is what you are "truly meant to be". Part of being an adult is accepting what you are and then making the most and more of what that is).
 
I remember back when the Internet was first getting big, like 1998 when I was a nasty young female just starting down her merry little deviant sexuality path. Back then the "real" BDSM community hated the online crowd with a passion, because of all the fakes and "wannabes" that were jumping on the bandwagon (sound familiar, ~laughs~ yes, and we still bitch, though it's turned more into eye rolling and warnings, since the Internet is almighty)… and even worse, all the predators that were flooding in to take advantage of this rush of n00bs (to use the net-vernacular) that came running wide-eyed to the idea of sexual domination and all its fun forms. Anyway, back then one of the big things to declare was that you were "Old Guard" or "Old Guard Trained" which was hilarious in itself, especially when confronted with "really, and what do you think that means?" ~laughs~. Thankfully that has somewhat died off as the years passed.
 
So yes… any time there is a title that someone feels they can take in order to impress or claim legitimacy, it's going to be grabbed up the instant it gains any notoriety.
 
That's part of why I don't really like using them all that much. Sure, you somewhat have to in some places (like this one, if for no other reason than keywords ~laughs~, hence the "Domina" and occassional "Dominatrix" and "Lifestyle" from me), so people can more easily understand what you are talking about. But I prefer to let things speak for themselves. In person, my nature does that very easily… and here… well, that is why I am sharing these thoughts in such volume. Not because I have anything to prove… but because I am confident in who I am, and I will let that confidence easily be displayed in my written reflections ~grinz~.
 
Besides, writing about things I have done brings back good memories… and writing about my thoughts helps me collect and refine them more.
 

Domina Amanda

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Continued in Part XXXII - Extreme BDSM

"My hot, tight ass is only one beautiful part of me that you will worship…

Your first display of submission to female domination…

Will be your tongue licking my ass clean… deep - Face Sitting"