"Strict tease and denial… sensuous, controlling cock tease…

All by a hot ass dominatrix who will drive you insane - Orgasm Denial"

As someone who plays no character or role when it comes to female domination and my dominant nature… who is very consistent in her outlook, behavior and basic approach when dealing with others and her world… and who has been very heavily involved with the BDSM "community/scene" for years (to an even far greater degree than I have detailed here so far, or in the future will), and for that matter also, Domination Phone Sex (as another way to enjoy my interests)… I do at times find it damn annoying to see "domination" and/or "submission" taken to primarily mean a category someone is casually choosing in order to "get off". I don't mean people who enjoy themselves through casual BDSM play… I mean the respective concepts being watered down into being seen mostly as terms in sex games.
 
Now, earlier I was speaking primarily of people taking their role-play definitions more seriously than they should - people thinking that because they play a dominant and like it, that they are dominant by nature. But now I am getting into the actual BDSM community itself and what happens within it.
 
Sexual domination isn't the same thing as a dominant personality, and I accept that when I step into the circle of the former, regardless of the truth of my personality, I am within a primarily sexual setting, and thus all definitions within it are going to be driven by that focus. As stated, I don't really care for the word overlap, but the reasons for use are obvious enough, and I have no problem with honest people enjoying themselves within their place (or for that matter, me enjoy those people thoroughly when I get my hands on them ~laughs~). The problem is that with the flood of part-time-dominants that have arrived with the Internet, quantity has eclipsed quality in too many ways, resulting in, amongst other things, people thinking much more of their "place" than they ever should… and worse.
 
I know I am right in saying so not simply because it's my opinion, but because I have far greater claim to "dominant" and with it "dominatrix" than the majority. That will seem like an arrogant statement to many, and I hope it does - dominant individuals usually do see themselves as better than those around them, whether it be something they admit, or just sub-consciously know to be true and are guided by accordingly. This is part of why there is this annoyance within me (and others like myself) at seeing someone grab up a cheap leather toy and say "hey, I'm one of you", regardless of what the environment is… especially when its nothing at all sexual.
 
This fundamental annoyance though, is simple and passing… something tolerable due to circumstance, if not overly welcome… and something not thrown at those players who have good intentions, at least not in that nasty a way ~grinz~. If it stopped there it wouldn't be that big a deal. But the greater problem comes in two forms - first, the overall effect on the environment of the BDSM community, both in terms of atmosphere and prevailing behaviors… and secondly, the deceptions that are then nurtured within this environment… deceptions sometimes followed by injuries… later resulting in aspersions cast on us all.
 
I get sick of all the fakes, the false claims of lifestyle, subbie brats, and predators (the latter I'm not going to get into, but suffice it to say - open your eyes people… there is scum everywhere and BDSM is obviously primed to attract more than its fair share of human waste)… all of us do, even those who don't realize they fall into that mix themselves ~laughs~. But what's worse, is that since these types outnumber the more serious lifestylers and the honest players, the moron-majority ends up impacting the overall definitions and expectations within the BDSM community and also without.
 
It's that more than anything… the blatant absurdity that is constantly apparent in the community…. the rampant contradiction, that so poisons the actions and roles people claim to be the "truth of their souls"… and how glaring these things are to someone like myself, strikingly so, to a point beyond mere distraction, but straight into disgust.
 
I also know that many of you… regardless of if you claim this as a lifestyle or just a form of sexual fetish you from time to time enjoy… understand what I am saying to at least some degree (even if I‘ve not gone into great detail as to particulars), so I don't need to get into a long winded rant of the sort that's been done so often before by others. You've all run into bullshit at one time or another in this mix, regardless of how involved you are. No one likes having their time wasted by wastes of life… and even less people like having the taint of those wastes shadow them due to how common the garbage has become.
 
I want to instead give a general example of what I mean… but I am going to wait to do so until after the next part (which I had to break into two posts since it ran long ~sticks out forked tongue~).

Domina Amanda

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Continued in Part XXX - Lifestyle Dominatrix

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