"The beauty of the female is only one aspect of her superiority over the male…

and only one means by which she can enslave him - Female Domination"

Some of the things I've said in recent posts leads us to a point of interest for me… a sort of paradox that exists within BDSM - true dominant personalities versus people who "play" at being dominant or assume that role for the purpose of play (and when I say "play" I don‘t necessarily mean that in a bad or depreciating way).
 
This paradox is based in how the word "dominant" becomes somewhat watered down within certain BDSM related circles, because it's used primarily as a "title" and definition of a role taken… which may well be the extent of its "truth" with regard to the given individual's actual personality. The result leaves the word, and the surrounding act of domination, sounding a bit hollow when compared to the greater meaning, and the greater definition it should have when considering something as important as a person's true personality and inclinations. When not substantiated beyond the play setting, it ends up coming off false and superficial since its use causes assumptions to be made about a person’s life which may fall short of reality.
 
Also, when having conversations about the subject of dominance and submission (as I have been having here recently), confusion can easily result due to the overlapping usages of both words. Confusion that is difficult to avoid because of the many varied contexts and applications of this and other words directly related to it - consider "Lifestyle Dominatrix" as compared to "Professional Dominatrix"… the latter is an expression of job occupation, while the former speaks of something much deeper. Think of how I have spoken about myself being a female dominant… much of what I have said is about my outlook on life in general and my personal set of values - my lifestyle. My sexual outlook is included within these things, since it is a vital part of my life, but when I talk of my dominant instincts I'm more often going far beyond just my sexuality and how I enjoy it. I'm talking about how I approach everything, and the fundamental basis for my personal philosophy. When the same word(s) is used to describe distinctly different things that hold surface similarity in some form of "domination", it's easy to cause the lines to become blurred, resulting in one confusing sexual dominance in role-play with a truly dominant personality. I am happily the latter, which encompasses all in my life.
 
A substantial number of "dominants" within BDSM are that only in name, which causes some conflict when we step out of the confines of sexual acts and into lifestyle and personality. Fetish role-play, in this sense, presents the opportunity for those who dream of being in control - of being strong, dominant personalities, who are respected or even feared - to take up a role that mimics what they aspire to be, albeit in a limited way for a limited time (like what I was talking about in earlier posts when I said most people dream about being "in control" - in this case this is a way to play it out). But the resulting "display of dominance" is often more a display of practiced attitudes and skill with sex toys and devices - sexual domination and submission - that is dependent upon prearranged conditions and set between a pair of people or within a small group.
 
Since the "slave" in the equation is already looking to submit, the "domination" is often already rigged and waiting for the person taking the "dom" role. Within basic expectations, all that is necessary is for that person to play the part reasonably well, and if successful, both can enjoy their fantasy for its duration. Now, taken just for what it is and kept in proper perspective, everything sounds find. But in terms of true domination, this is quite different from reality, where dominant personalities show themselves for what they are in everyday situations that are not at all controlled, in an environment which can often include varying degrees of confrontation and opposition. Besides also… domination has to do with a lot more than just one's position during sex (and this "lot more" is actually what those who are truly seeking submission in a greater, more committed lifestyle sense, most desire).
 
So "sexual domination" isn't necessarily inclusive of a true "dominant personality", and often doesn't have much in common with it beyond the surface and the use of the same word. "Sexual domination" is something one does and is involved in, while "dominant personality" is a description of the actual person on the most basic level.

Domina Amanda

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Continued in Part XXVIII - Male Submission

"BDSM doesn't make the dominatrix into what she is…

BDSM only represents possible things she may enjoy, and enjoy doing to others…

Natural female domination and superiority are what make the dominatrix - Female Domination"

1. Miss Vivian, February 7, 2008:

   I agree … the Lifestyle I live has become “watered down”, since I began my journey. Sometimes it seems more like a fashion statement - than Power Exchange.