"Whether it's a quick does of discipline, or a long femdom session…

I just get off on controlling men from all around the world…

There are those face to face… and those who call me - Female Domination Phone Sex"

As many kinks as there are which fall under the heading of BDSM, there are even more opinions on how things should be done and why they are… from the most basic technical, all the way up to deeply philosophical. Since there is no one sourcebook that all of this is based upon, individuals and groups within the BDSM community, go their own way… with some general agreement with regard to responsible behavior and overall tolerance, but everyone having their own overall "opinon".
 
Personally, I've found the sum of these opinions to be a mixed bag - some great, some okay for others, yet not for me, and some flat out stupid. This is particularly true when we come back to the paradox I've been talking of recently - there are many beliefs held by certain portions of the BDSM community that true dominant personalities not only would not agree with, but at times find flat out ridiculous. Sometimes I think the intentions are good ones, regardless of the results… but other times I am reminded of how the weak often attempt to empower themselves and their wants through some sort of legislation ~laughs~… trying to corral the strong to fit what is comfortable to for their inferiors by using mass agenda and oft point to declarations.
 
One concept that comes to mind right away is the notion that a "dominant" has to experience things first as a "submissive" to "know what it's like to be the bottom." I suppose that's all well and good if you are a fetish role-player, especially one into sadism and masochism - it makes sense that if you see the other side you can better relate to it and better understand limits/effects… so for those thinking that way, for that reason, no complaints from me because we aren't "into" this for quite the same motivations and your viewpoint fits your specific wants. But the "dominant" I am referring to - the true dominant personality - just has no interest in, or stomach for, the idea of submitting in any way. The idea isn't so much uncomfortable as it's more offensive, or just plain irrelevant, never coming to mind and being dismissed as a bad joke if suggested. And sexually… it's a heavy turn-off, bordering on repulsive. Like everything else, one's sexuality is linked directly to one's personality and fundamental nature. If female domination is your life path, submission to another person is a reversal in your life's growth… something not just wrong, but to be avoided since it isn't who you are (the BDSM player crowd confuses that because they arent talking about the same thing I am - they are focused on their sex play… fine for you, but not for all).
 
Some try to say things like - "if you are dominant than you should be strong enough to submit and handle being dominated by another"… but that just ends up being proof of the convoluted nonsense and double speak that feeds the paradox I've been speaking of… some sort of re-valuation of the greater idea of "dominant" to fit the wants of people who fall short of the word's deeper meaning. Why would I lower myself from what I am, when I am happy with the person I am, and happy existing within the truth of myself and my instincts.
 
The weak always try to empower their ideas by saying that if you don't do what they do, or agree with what they believe, you must somehow be afraid. I don’t like lima beans… but trust me, I don't have nightmares about them… they just aren't me… and I don't have to eat a bowl of them to re-convince myself of that, or prove myself to any dim witted nobody ~laughs~.
 
Personally, I have never had the urge to not be in control sexually. I've been in, shall we say, "neutral" positions - like when I have had sex with another dominant female - where the two of us enjoy one another on somewhat equal terms… but in those cases none of what domination and submission brings to mind is involved. It's just heavy, intense, lesbian sex - just imagine a pair of dominant women fucking each other hard and you've got the idea. But submission… dominant individuals like myself are not drawn to such things. And when it comes to men, all of my sexual urges are driven by domination alone. (Continued…)

Domina Amanda

Female Domination Phone Sex - 1-800-356-6169
 

Continued in Part XXXVI - Lifestyle Dominatrix

"I love all kinds of BDSM play… but there's one that is simple in form…

and yet excellent in the results a skillful female can work up - Tease and Denial"

"Submission means you're submitting to the will of another person…

Domination means that you're imposing your will on another person…  

The two work in compliment to one another, but they're not the same thing…

And when people try to blur the lines, everyone ends up frustrated - Female Domination"

Now don't get me wrong… in what I've written in my last few "About Me" episodes, I'm not throwing scorn at everyone who just dabbles in BDSM. So long as people enjoy themselves in a responsible way, they've got no problem with me. For that matter, there are people who are strictly into sexual forms of domination who are quite exceptional and skilled at what they do, including some that are good friends of mine, and I don't criticize them at all. My issue is more with "fakes" who want to be seen as more than what they truly are… and those who play at the submissive or slave role but really want to do something that is called "bottom top".
 
It annoys me to see weak people walk around with attitude thinking they are "supremely dominant uber lifestylers" just because they've learned the basics of how to use a dopey flogger or know what "Shibari" means. People in the real world don't give a shit about any of that… and when you come into conflict with a true dominant personality in that real world, the truth you've been hiding yourself from on your little BDSM websites and in leather vest wearing enclaves is going to fall on your head. You love taking on a dominant role in sexual play… go for it, enjoy it and be the best you can at it… but don't delude yourself into thinking that role means you're dominant by nature and that "club" equates to a true "lifestyle". The first step in true dominance revolves around self-mastery - domination of the self - and the first step in that is total honesty with yourself.
 
As a dominant female it's insulting to see such fakes claim to be on my level. It's further insulting to see my personality type somehow generalized to include such people. I admire those who strive to make themselves more than what they are - who seek to earn and achieve, for that is a sign of strength and domination. But I resent people who seek easy, hollow routes to power and success.
 
It also annoys me coming into contact with "subbies" who want to tell me what to do… ~laughs~. It's that whole "gift of submission" thing, mixed with what turns into them somehow being the "top" in the equation… with me allegedly there to serve their need to serve ~rolls eyes~. The weak trying to bind the strong to their whim - yeah, that's how I describe female domination ~laughs~, I'm of course being sarcastic. Sadly, this notion is very common, both in behavior and things making a mess of Online - resonings covered in a smokescreen of hot air and bottom topping slave written excuses. It makes me ill to come into contact with and is an automatic path to rejection by me.
 
I'm not talking about people who want to ask questions first, or even those who want to share their fetish fantasies and desire to fulfill them. Those who have concerns they wish to discuss or who simply want to be safe in what they get involved in - if anything that is a good sign (so long as not ridiculously overwrought, or deceptive). Not everyone is into this as a lifestyle… for most it’s something enjoyed as a single part of their life and they try to keep proper perspective in how they enjoy it. That's not a problem with me so long as that person is honest and respectful. Cop an attitude though and your ass goes out the window… start trying to dictate or impose and you'll get laughed at on your way down to reality's pavement.
 
Everyday people who enjoy BDSM on a strictly limited, only sexual level are perfectly fine, and can be quite enjoyable for someone like me. Actually, most people I meet in these circles have this outlook, and there are plenty I have enjoyed thoroughly ~grinz~, some of which I've taken interest in beyond a simple moment's distraction.
 
My concern when considering someone is that they be a honest person and possess a bit of a wild side… that they aren't smothered in hang-ups and issues… that they have a basic understanding of what they are getting into, and if not, that they be open about this with me and seek to learn… that they don't get lost in what we are doing and forget about reality, responsibility, and obligations… and the obvious - that they will damn well respect the person I am and show that respect for me constantly.

Domina Amanda

Female Domination Phone Sex - 1-800-356-6169
 

Continued in Part XXXV - Lifestyle Dominatrix

"BDSM can open doors to wonderfully pleasurable experiences…

not just sexual acts, but an environment that allows people to find themselves.

And yet, it can also be used in very horrible ways… to find out other things…

In the course of your interrogation, you'll learn more about yourself than you ever imagined - Extreme BDSM"

"This isn't the time for a cute cock tease… not at all…

Tonight you are going to be tied down, with your legs spread wide open…

and then we are going to have some fun with your cock and balls - Femdom CBT"

I plan to post a series of essays on chastity soon, including some femdom stories focused on that particular theme, so this session I had with a friend of mine is a fitting prelude for what is to come. Now as many of you know, chastity is a favorite fetish of mine, not just as some extended form orgasm denial, but true regimented routines and key holding. It's something I practice to varying degrees with all of my personal slaves, and my experience has led to me being considered quite knowledgeable on the subject itself, along with the use of the cock cage, chastity belt and other related devices.
 
By coincidence…
 
Princess Grace and I had a delightful call together over the weekend with one of my chaste boys. He's a sweet little long term chastity slave - obedient, attentive and eager to please. I always enjoy myself thoroughly when in session with him - he's just so much fun to cock tease, and I torture him horribly, using extreme methods to arouse him, but always leading to the same inevitable conclusion - crushing orgasm denial ~grinz~.
 
I've done many Two Mistress calls with him before, but this was the first time Princess Grace and I did a female domination session together and I must say, it was exceptionally good and much fun.
 
We teased and tormented him mercilessly, laughing together the whole time as we exploited his desperate need to cum. Its been 130 days since he last had an orgasm… yes, you read that correctly ~laughs~. And so we decided to have him take his chastity device off so we could enjoy a nasty femdom CBT session at his expense, while taunting him with the possibility we might allow him to finally cum… but only if he was deemed sufficiently entertaining by both of us.
 
(Chastity slaves are all different in terms of what makes them tick, but there are certain methods that particular types respond to very well. In this case, torturing the victim with the possibility of that long awaited orgasm, greatly intensifies the cumulative effect his chastity has had upon him… taking cruel advantage of it through a form tease and denial that takes on a sadistic edge ~grinz~.)
 
I think I may have corrupted the Princess a little when I showed her how I like to shove 5 dildos up his ass… ruthlessly torture his cock and balls… spank him a deep red with a tree branch (who needs a belt when you've got nature)… and force his needy cock to fuck an ice pussy. Princess she may be, but I swear I could hear a little devil in her voice as she laughed through it all… and I know she enjoyed the torment he went through, herself making it worse by adding this teasingly sweet voice on top of each sadistic act.
 
And the best part… all of this was done to him, the CBT, the anal dildos, all of it with the possibility of an orgasm that in the end, never happened. We were enjoying ourselves so much that we talked and teased him so long that his phone died before we had finished with his poor cock ~laughs~. Truly sad though… because we really were thinking about letting him cum… ~laughs damn evil~… so it seems fate decided that orgasm denial was to be the night's theme after all, and thus his wait must continue. Perhaps I should make him buy a Goethals chastity belt… seeing that it doesn't seem like he will be doing anything with what's in there anyway ~smiles~.
 
I'm looking forward to future femdom CBT sessions shared with the Stroke Princess… and to seeing more of the playfully wicked side of her ~grinz evil~.
 

Domina Amanda

Tease and Denial Phone Sex - 1-800-356-6169

"What is a dominatrix to do with a naughty slave like you?

A long term dose of orgasm denial will teach you to keep your mind out of the gutter, slut boy…

especially since I've thrown away the only key to that belt you're wearing - Male Chastity"

"Tease and denial… what a wonderful pairing of words…

The first sounds so cute and naughty… while the second so evil…

Can you guess which one I like more ~laughs~ - Orgasm Denial"

Listen up slave boys… I know you've all got fat balls full of juice that need squeezing, but the only way you're going to get even a drop of mercy from me, is through the latest guided masturbation assignment I've put up on "May I Cum?" - the premier cock tease and orgasm denial portal on the web - so crawl your slave butts on over there and start doing as you are told…
 
Click - "Now imagine her spreading herself… and you pushing inside…"
 
The theme of this guided masturbation session - a fantasy fuck with the most beautiful woman you can think of… hold on there, make that second most beautiful… get your mind out of the gutter slave boys, I direct the action and when I have sex I'm the one in charge… so dream all you want but it aint me you're gonna be with, I can promise you that… unless I'm behind you with a strapon, giving you the best damn domination sex of your life ~laughs~. 
 
Instead I have another girl in mind… and I'm going to use her body to create a devious little tease and denial session. She will be my sex toy, tempting, and sucking, and fucking by my command. Will she tease you, or take you deep inside of her, hips pounding down greedy for more of you? Time for that cock to perform… let's see what you've got.
 
All of my guided masturbation assigments include a cock tease audio finish declaring your fate - you'll either be given permission to enjoy a fantastic orgasm, or I will leave your cock begging for mercy at the end of a tease and denial session that will be great for me ~laughs~… yup, I promise you it will be great for me ~grinz~. Welcome to the world of female domination, slave boy… where I am all that matters, and you exist only for me. Ready to learn more about your new life of submission? Call me - Domination Phone Sex - so your training can really begin.

Domina Amanda
Orgasm Denial Phone Sex - 1-800-356-6169
 

"Want to show me all that you've learned?

Now's your chance to perform for me… so I can see what a good little slave boy you've become…

Get your webcam ready… this isn't just going to be a hot cock tease and denial phone call…

This time we'll be doing much, much more - Guided Masturbation"
 

"Don't you hate it when your ass aches deep down inside…

When it wants a long, thick cock to fuck it until that ache explodes in anal orgasm…

Hate it or love it… get used to it because it's what I want - Forced Femdom"

I have a new Free Erotic Audio up on the Cock Control Forum entitled - "Femdom Strapon Anal Training" - the title of this one pretty clearly defines the subject matter ~laughs~. It may not be creative but it gets to the point quickly… just as I like to do when I'm wearing a nice, fat rubber cock. Besides, who needs a creative title when you have four words like those that sound so wonderful together.
 
There is no one you will ever meet who is better at training a man or woman to take a thick cock deep in the ass. It's not just because I have such a great amount of experience with femdom strapon sessions, it's because I truly love wearing and using each one of my beloved cocks, and so the anal training and domination sex are things I enjoy and get off on myself. I am extremely comfortable in a strapon harness, and I know how to use a rubber dick as if it were truly a part of my own body - not some clumsy extension. When training, I can do things with great patience for those who are willing and attentive… or if you are foolishly reluctant, I can easily turn this into a forced femdom scene, with this long, hard dick punishing your ass terribly until it gives you the anal orgasm you so want so badly, even as you try to deny it. 
 
Click - "You're in need of some serious anal training, slut… I'm going to have to spend many long, hard hours instructing you."
 
You think you're up to what I have planned for you? Once I've forced a raging anal orgasm out from deep inside your ass, you'll beg to be my slave forever. So prepare yourself before you call… this is going to be much more than you think… this is going to be the domination sex you've wanted for so long.
 
You will need to an account to acess this erotic audio, since it is quite graphic in nature ~grinz~. If you don't have an account, click the link above and look for "Register" in the upper right corner of that page. No personal information will be asked for, just a valid Email.
 
You can listen to the rest of my collection, including more femdom strapon and anal orgasm clips, here - Free Erotic Audio - these are all orginal works I've written and recorded myself. When you are ready for the real thing… call me - Domination Phone Sex - and I will allow you to beg me to take care of that ache you are feeling in your ass… that need you have to submit and offer up your dirty slut hole.
 

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Domina Amanda
Femdom Strapon Phone Sex - 1-800-356-6169
 

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There are hundreds waiting for you, all dominatrix written and recorded… 

Sensual female domination sex, to forced femdom strapon and more - Free Erotic Audio Clips"

"The best in erotic audio femdom stories, told by the hottest women on the web…

tales of BDSM play… bondage sex… sensual teasing… and strict female domination…

and that's only the start, there is so much more - Mistress Always Wins"

…that night at the BDSM Club I was just speaking of opens up the opportunity for one of my femdom stories. Now, like I've said before, unless I say it's fiction, then these stories are things that really happened… and that's the case here…
 
So they had this cheesy little auction in that BDSM club with the fat moron walking around. It was set on their stage - no more than a tease when compared to anything more serious or what a real one might be like. I can't remember how many people were up for sale (there were probably a half dozen to ten… this was like around 8 years ago - fake ID + tall, hot body + professional dominatrix friends = open doors for young Amanda ~laughs~ no denial for me), but my friend bid on a cute, petite girl who was a student at NYU - very inexperienced but obviously wanting to experience domination. She was there with another girl (her roommate from the dorms - I think they were in the old Broome St dorm if I remember correctly)… a friend who was also interested in femdom bondage and discipline, but not daring enough to be auctioned off (sad, but cute seeing a girl tease herself like that, and have to live later with her self denial - though I bet she had a hell of an orgasm masturbating to it all later). They had both worn tight little shirts and short skirts - sexy cute but not at all BDSM scene-ish or slutty - with simple collars around their necks… those leather bands being the only outward sign of their want to feel submission.
 
The girl didn't expect to be "won" by a woman… but the look on her face when she was on stage, and when she was "sold" was excellent - a mix of shock, innocence, fear over what she was doing, and dizzy arousal from all that was happening (when she first got pulled up on stage she looked like she was going to fall over ~laughs~ she was swaying, with her eyes darting around - crash course in exhibionism. The female auctioneer put an arm around her to steady her - I felt myself getting wet watching it and the memory is bringing that back now ~grinz and laughs~ I have so many great femdom stories to tell… how sad you can't see the details and images in my mind). I could easily tell her reluctant friend was excited and shocked by the whole thing too… living somewhat vicariously through the now "sold" girl, as her friend was led to her night's owner on a leash (this other girl stood alone but near the front of the stage the whole time, arms pulled in close to her side, as if she was trying to make herself small - her submissiveness so obvious and so damn sexy).
 
After the auction was over, my dominatrix friend immediately took to the main stage and gave the newly inducted slave girl a serious first lesson in just what she was looking for - warming her up by spanking her while bent over her owner's knee… paddling her on all fours while directing her by tight leash… then some basic rope bondage and light suspension… tease play with a riding crop… capped by a mild, but good caning while her hands were tied with her arms stretched high over her head ("mild" because of the obvious reasons - the girl was new, the setting was meant to be relaxed/casual, and you can't go crazy in public BDSM clubs).
 
I know the girl lost it while the cane was being applied… not sure if she had an orgasm but her eyes rolled up in her head and her breathing got very ragged in that oh-so-F'ing-excellent way. At the first strike her eyes went full wide and she began to struggle frantic against the ropes. The second brought more of the same as she tried to look behind her. Then she was hit again, harder, and told to be still, followed by another hard hit that brought tears to her eyes. But she didn't call to stop, and she obeyed. So beautiful.
 
There is something so hot about watching a young slave girl new to her submission being completely dominated by another, experienced woman. The fear mixed with the longing, and the knowledge that you are opening this girl up to a whole world of domination that deep down she wants so badly (even if in this case it was unexpected lesbian domination - you'll find with the really serious BDSM types bisexuality can be somewhat common).
 
There was no nudity, and it was intentionally on the gentle side, but the girl was overwhelmed by the experience - the mix of the BDSM play at the hands of a woman, and the audience sitting/standing around the stage watching what was happening to her - particularly the people that were masturbating to what was happening to her. I loved watching the eyes of her friend move from orgasm to orgasm that the watching men jerked themselves to… I don't think she closed her eyes or mouth once through the whole thing ~grinz damn dirty~… but I know she was also turned on by what was happening - the expression on her face as she watched, and the quality of her breathing made it obvious. You've heard me say many times before that I'm an exhibitionist, and while I prefer to be the one in action, I still enjoy seeing others, especially ones so new to the concept, on display. In this case, I don't know if exhibitionism was ever a prior fantasy for the slave girl, but as she performed on that stage, it was obvious the eyes of audience were only feeding her excitment all the more (I so wish a strapon could have come into play, changing the scene from a bondage and discipline session, to some full out lesbian bondage sex… ~grinz~ but it wasn't the right place for it ~sighs~. I do think she would have made such a wonderfully responsive female sex slave to a strict but patient dominatrix).
 
When they were done, the girl told my friend that she had never done anything at all with another woman… to which my friend took hold of her by her hair, and seeing no resistance, kissed her very deeply ~grinz~. Talk about a big city college experience you'll remember for a lifetime. Those are the kind of femdom stories girls like her keep to themselves later in life, when they are married with the 2.5 kids and all… but still have dreams about ~laughs~. If you ever wake up next to your wife and find her masturbating while whispering a woman's name… ~laughs~ there ya go.
 
And me? I had my eyes on her friend, but I knew the girl wasn't ready to take the step from wanting to doing. She knew I had my eyes on her - I made it extremely obvious, and I am sure it made her uncomfortable in a way that was very arousing for her then, and later. I did it on purpose, both cause I did want her ~laughs~ and because I knew she needed to feel that so she might have the confidence to take the next step another day.
 
There was a boy that caught my attention too, but he was owned by another woman (he would have looked so good stripped naked, hanging off the floor by his wrists, helpless before the whip… mhhmm ~laughs~). She didn't care for the looks I gave him or the tease I was being in general, and I didn't give a shit about the looks she gave back to me. You dress your boy in barely anything, take him out in public, and he damn well will get looked at. You don't like it… leave him at home, or don't strip him down to near nothing… dumbass.
 
So you see… BDSM clubs aren't all bad I suppose… even with idiots like the fat leather harness boy I mentioned before… they can have their unexpected, worthwhile moments that lead to some pretty good BDSM stories. Private parties are a different case, with those much depends on a mix of who is holding the event and the general atmosphere they can create… plus the obvious that is true with everything - the quality of company that it attracts.
 
Regardless… I will always find something strangely hilarious about seeing men walking around with their dicks out, jerking off to the sights, while usually trying to keep this, straight sort of blank face, pretending they arent doing anything and that they don't notice anyone else is around them ~laughs~.
 
Just always remember to watch what you touch… where you sit… and what you drink ~laughs~ (seriously on the last one - lot of assholes around now). That's why it's a good thing to bring a prepared male slave along with you… a tester/cleaner of sorts (not all clubs are as bad as I'm making it out to be… well, not quite as bad ~grinz~).
 

Domina Amanda

Female Domination Phone Sex - 1-800-356-6169
 

Continued in Part XXXIV - Femdom Stories

"My female sex slave? You like that pretty little thing?

You want to see me use my strapon on her ass… don't you?

Get on your knees and ask nicely… and maybe I'll even let you tie her - Bondage Sex"

"The delightfully sensual meets the dangerously beautiful…

Mistress Alexis and Domina Amanda…

2 Dominatrix Cock Radio Show… Dual Female Domination Phone Sex - Devilish Tease"

A few posts ago I said that I would give a general example of the contradictions regarding domination that exist within the BDSM community. In this case in particular, how the perceptions and expectations of those "into" domination strictly as sexual gratification, and true dominant personalities can be quite different within the same setting, and how its easily understandable that this would be annoying to the latter.
 
It's a memory from the first time I was in a BDSM club back when I was still in my teens (I was such a little shit pussy & cock tease then ~laughs~)… one that made a somewhat lasting impression on me, however worthless the central figure(s) of the occurrence otherwise was. It's not a memory that altered my way of thinking at all, quite the contrary, it only served to reinforce those opinions I was then coming to recognize for that they were… and may have actually contributed in some way to the more harsh and literal views on dominance that I have.
 
Now, the thing about this example is that it demonstrates something very common, and even somewhat accepted in general BDSM circles. Something that is absolutely absurd to those of us who are Dominant by Nature, not by clothing.
 
When you go to a BDSM club you'll see quite a mix of humanity, not just in terms of the different fetish choices but intentions. Many of these places have become so overrun by childish spectators as to be "untenable" - as morality shifts and with it inhibitions, so too does what the masses deem "cool and wild to see"… and so must the rest of us suffer.
 
Ignoring all of that though… what I am talking about is a particular breed of submissive (and it has its own wonderful form of "dominant" counterpart too). Often you go to these places and see this type of creature walking around with this haughty, cocky sort of attitude, sizing up the "dominants" (be they really that or not) as if he is the most important thing in the place, and he is the one in pseudo-charge of what may occur if he so decides. Behavior making it very clear that he feels that it is the dominant individuals who are presenting themselves to him, and that they are the ones here to do the serving. What a load of fake ass shit.
 
The very first time I was in a BDSM club (this was a while ago, back in NYC; one of the rather well known ones - it was open to the public that night with a very tame slave auction as the evening’s theme), I was sitting with a few friends who were professional dominatrices at the time (not sure if all still are - know for fact one is), and there was this fat bloated mess of a guy - dressed in biker boots, and black leather jock-strap, harness, and cap, and that's it. Hairy chest and hanging belly. And he was walking around with this "I'm hot shit" look on his fake slave face… sizing up all the women in the place, especially each and every dominatrix there. This stupid, challenging, smug look of "I bet I could take you… you couldn't break me" that he pointed at each lady, as he leered and appraised. I wanted to punch him in his head and kick him repeatedly in his fat boy gut, but that's another one of the funny problems with BDSM - do something like that and the guy might actually like it ~laughs~, and you end up giving him more a prize than a beating.
 
The typical response from the more serious crowd is to ignore idiots like that (effective denial, since it's not of the fetish sort except for a few who like being ignored), and many bring along collared male slaves to usher the crap along… or simply don't frequent the public places, going on to private events and more discrete female domination clubs.
 
But these types are commonplace across the board… found not just in joke clubs, but everywhere. The concept of "dominant" and "submissive" can be so hollow that many phase in and out of whatever supposed "sex role" they claim without seeming to even realize it.
 
If you're going to be a submissive then act like one, idiot. You don't have to submit to everyone (use your common sense - and no, don't be a "no limit slave" - do that crap with someone you know very well, not some idiot you've barely met… when he/she sends you to the hospital we all end up getting a bad name for it), but let's see a little consistency and dedication to what you say is so exciting for you. Yeah, yeah… there are those who love to challenge and be "broken down" - shove that up your butt with everything else. I'm not here to perform for you, it's the other way around… how is that difficult to understand.
 
Present yourself as what you claim to be. Behave in a manner fitting that, while being sensible as to what you involve yourself in and who with. If you love submission, then carry yourself in a way that reflects this. If it's only sexual submission and something you enjoy for play, then when within that circle, be true to that role while again behaving responsibly. Those who truly feel submission and are aroused by it will find themselves getting even more out of what they enjoy this way… much more so than when they wallow in contradiction (though usually, these walking contradictions aren't really even into what they claim to be… but that‘s another story and one worth as little contemplation as its human motivation).
 
Domination, submission, whatever. Have some consistency to what you enjoy, and depth to it within whatever circles you choose to enjoy it in. You'll find yourself enjoying it even more, regardless of your viewpoint on lifestyle.
 

Domina Amanda

Female Domination Phone Sex - 1-800-356-6169
 

Continued in Part XXXIII - BDSM Dominatrix

"Our Interrogation Cells are the perfect place for a dominatrix to purge her bad mood…

 So go ahead… resist… withold the answers we seek… refuse to talk…

The longer it takes to rip your submission from you… the better - Extreme BDSM"

"Look at how hard that cock is already… have you been playing without me?

Looks like we are going to have to start off by teaching someone a little patience…

You never start without permission of the dominatrix…

But since you already have… now you're going to wait a long time to stop - Tease and Denial"

Cock Control Forum has been graced with my latest Free Erotic Audio - "Men love being used by me…" - a cock tease piece that states the obvious - I'm the kind of female that's much more than you're prepared for… a Dark Seductress that will show you things you've never dreamed of… and afterwards, will never be able to forget it.
 
Will this be a gentle but manipulative cock tease… or harsh orgasm denial? I like what I like, and it depends on my mood. I don't claim to be a nice person, and I prefer my sex play to be extreme and intense no matter what the form… whether it's focused on a slowly building, excruciating tease and denial session… or a cruel exploitation ending only in a devastating orgasm denial that will leave you crawling after me and begging for days to come. My mood takes me where I want to go, when I see what's been delivered to me… naked, on its knees at my feet.
 
Click - "What I want is more than most men dare dream… and I always get what I want"
 
This erotic audio is listed in the public section of the Cock Control Forum which doesn't require an account to be listened to. This is because it is less "graphic" in nature, being more of a cock tease that hints at stronger themes and opens the door for possible continuation in a domination phone sex call with me. I have other more explicit clips available too which explore these themes in a very… blunt… way ~grinz~.
 
You can listen to the rest of my collection here - Free Erotic Audio - a listing of sexual recordings covering a wide variety of femdom BDSM themes.

Domina Amanda
Tease and Denial Phone Sex - 1-800-356-6169
 

"The Dark Seductress Amanda isn't the only dominatrix you find here…

We have a wide variety of skilled female dominants…

waiting to share their sexual fantasies with you - Free Erotic Audio Clips"

"Domination Phone Sex for those who can handle extreme sexual pleasure…

BDSM fantasies under the direction of a superior dominatrix - Female Domination"

(…continuing from Sexual Domination I) While I am on the topic… something else about the use of lifestyle, at least in some of the ways it's used within the BDSM community. I don't really see BDSM itself as a "lifestyle", or for that matter the fetish interests that are often linked to this word either. To me, as much as I enjoy BDSM and it truly is a major part of my life, a "lifestyle" covers more than what falls under the heading of a collection of kinks, no matter how much you enjoy them or are involved in them. Kinks are things you do… they alone aren't who you are. Particular interest in one fetish might give an indication as to the nature of the person so enjoying, along with suggestions as to their standards and tastes, but in and of itself, a kink alone isn't "you" or how you live. Nope, it's not.
 
I can see D/s (a relationship based on Domination / submission) as being lifestyle-ish, if it's truly that serious and consistent, and not simply an often enjoyed sexual fetish - for example, what I said earlier about Lifestyle Dominant and all that. Lifestyle for me is literally the way you live… all the time… and it must be coupled with a personal philosophy that defines itself in a consistent, all encompassing manner - your behavior in all settings, driven by a core set of values and unified mindset. How you live your life, and the why behind that how (yes, I like the more old-fashioned dictionary definition of "lifestyle", than the modern overused catch-all)… not just how you enjoy sex sometimes, or what you dream yourself to be (people dream of many things, that doesn't mean the dream is who they really are - people wish they were rock stars and famous baseball players… so what, they aren't, that's the difference between dream and reality… just because you wish you were something you werent and think you'd be happier that way, doesnt mean that is what you are "truly meant to be". Part of being an adult is accepting what you are and then making the most and more of what that is).
 
I remember back when the Internet was first getting big, like 1998 when I was a nasty young female just starting down her merry little deviant sexuality path. Back then the "real" BDSM community hated the online crowd with a passion, because of all the fakes and "wannabes" that were jumping on the bandwagon (sound familiar, ~laughs~ yes, and we still bitch, though it's turned more into eye rolling and warnings, since the Internet is almighty)… and even worse, all the predators that were flooding in to take advantage of this rush of n00bs (to use the net-vernacular) that came running wide-eyed to the idea of sexual domination and all its fun forms. Anyway, back then one of the big things to declare was that you were "Old Guard" or "Old Guard Trained" which was hilarious in itself, especially when confronted with "really, and what do you think that means?" ~laughs~. Thankfully that has somewhat died off as the years passed.
 
So yes… any time there is a title that someone feels they can take in order to impress or claim legitimacy, it's going to be grabbed up the instant it gains any notoriety.
 
That's part of why I don't really like using them all that much. Sure, you somewhat have to in some places (like this one, if for no other reason than keywords ~laughs~, hence the "Domina" and occassional "Dominatrix" and "Lifestyle" from me), so people can more easily understand what you are talking about. But I prefer to let things speak for themselves. In person, my nature does that very easily… and here… well, that is why I am sharing these thoughts in such volume. Not because I have anything to prove… but because I am confident in who I am, and I will let that confidence easily be displayed in my written reflections ~grinz~.
 
Besides, writing about things I have done brings back good memories… and writing about my thoughts helps me collect and refine them more.
 

Domina Amanda

Female Domination Phone Sex - 1-800-356-6169
 

Continued in Part XXXII - Extreme BDSM

"My hot, tight ass is only one beautiful part of me that you will worship…

Your first display of submission to female domination…

Will be your tongue licking my ass clean… deep - Face Sitting"