"So the idea of being a male sex slave excites, does it?

What makes you think any dominatrix would want you as a sex slave, and not a servant?

Prove your submission and perhaps you will be found worthy of more…

The deeper the slavery, the more attractive the male becomes - Domination Phone Sex"

So far… we were talking of true dominant personalities, as compared to those who aspire to domination… and then, this in relation to people's proper place in the world, be it the control and leadership they dream of (and the rare few deserve), or the position of "follower" that for the majority is more often their rightful lot in life. Now in terms of sexual submission, things can get clouded. Here we are speaking of a more specific part of one's life and the circumstances surrounding it - individual sexuality - but also, while the individual's sexual motivations often do fit the overall way he carries himself in life, there can be observable contradiction between what he does in the bedroom and the boardroom.
 
Here we see two basic groupings… those for whom submission is a way of life - something that governs all that they are and do (and I don't necessarily mean people who live 24/7 D/s, I mean those who naturally take a more passive position, regardless of conscious choice or not - for them this isn't strictly sexual, it's what is most comfortable to them)… and those that desire to be dominated by another for a limited time when engaging in sexual activities, but may not appear to take submissive roles otherwise. Sexually, both cases share a primary motivation - sexual submission feels both natural and exciting to them (there are many more motivations than this, some shared, some not, and some given to the individual). And for someone to find this exciting, that person has to already have an inclination towards general submission to some degree.
 
Now, there are those who just won't like that comment, because they want their cake and eat it too. But when talking in the greater sense, truly dominant personalities don't find submission of any form appetizing or at all desirable (submission being different to deference - a dominant personality may defer to the will of another in a given situation, particularly is that deference is beneficial to one's own interests or chosen cause). They seek control, while those tending towards submission seek to give it up… in each case, the respective inclination reflects what the person is drawn to, and drawn to do.
 
As I said, that doesn't mean that in every situation one's "inclinations" are going to be clearly displayed in some sort of routine, blatant form - there are always mitigating circumstances in life - but there is usually a core consistency, regardless of any outward seeming contradiction. A powerful man may only seem powerful, because he surrounds himself with power, and convinces himself and others that external power devices are who he is… but take away all those externals or confront him with someone who doesn't careabout them, and we see the true person (better yet, shatter his world and see where things fall then). For many, power is only something perceived due to status, wealth, position, etc. But these things don't make someone a dominant personality, they just create external advantages that can impact one's rank and resulting control. The core consistency is seen in how the person approaches given situations devoid of external advantages… and sexually, it's seen in what turns him on the most, if he is brave enough to admit it.
 
In this way… one's sexuality is actually a very telling factor when it comes to seeing inside of the person and inside of his true personality (in terms of sexual roles, this is more true of submission than domination - it takes more for someone to admit they are a submissive, and the choice of such a role, even by an outwardly seeming powerful individual, is usually indicative of an underlying tendency towards submission… while with dominance, it's not uncommon for people to aspire to be more than they are, as I pointed out earlier). Responsibility can be thrust upon us by events beyond our control - a "follower" personality can be very intelligent and successful… a wealthy man can inherit from a strong family or be propped up by the business empire that supports him. But our sexuality is our own… and the sexual impulses we have are things deep inside of us that while we may deny or leave unfulfilled, are true parts of us… and reflections of who we really are.
 
For those who admit their desires, giving up control sexually can be a welcome and sought after change from the responsibility they face daily… something liberating and exciting, but even more, if there is a contradiction of roles - between their sexual appetites and their daily routine - the idea of it being so different from what others publicly perceive them to be like, digs into the excitement found in masochism that comes with the thought of shameful secrets.

Domina Amanda

Female Domination Phone Sex - 1-800-356-6169
 

Continued in Part XXVI - Male Sex Slave

"Your training has only begun… you have much more to learn…

The path of the slave begins with submission… but leads to absolute devotion…

It is there that you will find your true place…

At the feet of the woman who claims you as her property - Female Domination"

"Each of us has our place in the world…

Domination and superiority are the right and expectation of the female…

Submission to the female is what nature clearly intends for the male…

Men are physically stronger, but that's only so they can be better slaves - Female Domination"

While we are on the topic of true domination and dominant personalities, something more though… I said "being 'in charge' and 'getting your way' is a common dream that most imagine to be wonderful, especially when confronted with all of the frustrations that are the reality of life". Some do think that if they were "the boss" all their headaches would be solved… but usually these people have never really been in such a position before, and don't fully understand all that it entails (hell, think of people who win the lottery, and how many end up having more problems as a result instead of less… usually you bring your problems with you - no matter where you go, there you are).
 
There are others who understand these things though, even if they've never faced true leadership and failure at it. They realize that being the boss comes with its own set of headaches, revolving around the word "responsibility" - having to make decisions and stand by the consequences of them - and for many of these, the answer is found in giving up that responsibility and letting someone else lead (true leaders though, usually see these "headaches" as welcome challenges - a means to prove one's worth that can be just as exciting as threatening, often presenting opportunity instead of only obstacle - the chance to succeed, thrive, and grow stronger).
 
If you follow, you don't have to have the answers, you can just do as you are told, with the leader taking up the weight of accountability - leave someone else to be responsible for the big picture and all that is left to you, is to do the little things you're expect to. Thus life is easier since the farther you push yourself from responsibility, the simpler things get… at least in some ways. (I feel myself heading towards a quasi-Aristolean discourse on "natural slavery" - that the majority of human beings are naturally slaves and thus should be enslaved in some form by the minority who are naturally leaders… since such people cannot find fulfillment in the greater sense if left to their own devices without direction - but I will resist the temptation ~laughs~).
 
For these people, the answer isn't the dream of leadership and domination… but instead what is essentially submission. It is here they find greater fulfillment and happiness, because the difficulties of greater responsibility are assumed by someone else… someone more suited to the task. While they can lead the simpler lives they are meant to.
 
The problem is that this is usually something that is hard for most to admit - we are raised in the hope of being something greater than what we are often destined to be - and so most dream of being more but lack the necessary elements in their personality to reach that in reality. Truth is, while so many wish for power and control… the place of the majority is in submission to the stronger, more capable will. Adherence to natural order - with those dominating the top of the pyramid naturally less in number than those at the bottom.
 
~waves down from atop the pyramid~ Damn I look good from this angle.
 
~sits back in her throne from on high~ Now all you little slave boys down there better be working hard. My pyramid is to be truly gigantic and beautiful, so keep those bricks coming or my female overseers will have to show you just how good they are with a whip. You sissies too… no cock sucking or looking in mirrors on the job… get back to work or I will take your pretty dresses away and leave you with no makeup ~laughs~. Now work!

Domina Amanda

Female Domination Phone Sex - 1-800-356-6169
 

Continued in Part XXV - Female Superiority

"Today's exercise in female superiority will involve your cock…

you are going to drop your pants… and stroke to my command… exactly as I say…

I am going to take you to the edge of orgasm again and again, with no release…

Until the truth of female domination is crystal clear in your mind - Orgasm Denial"

"The second in a new series of domination phone sex sites dedicated to sadistic, dominant women…

Part of the Femdom Pit of Hell… a devilish playground for the dominatrix…

where the male slave is a toy to be played with very roughly - Extreme BDSM"

Domina Amanda has joined a new LDW Domination Phone Sex site - Interrogation Hell - a cold and ruthless, forced femdom setting for those into heavy interrogation scenes at the hands of a vicious dominatrix who will not stop until you have given up every single secret you hold… and even then will still continue breaking you down just for the sheer sadistic joy she gets from relentless sexual torture and extreme bondage sex.
 
To read the intro for just such a forced femdom scene I've written, Click Here - Domina Amanda - Interrogation Femdom Stories
 
The scenario described on that link makes it very clear that having you helplessly under my complete control is something I look forward to very much, and I will set into you with the cold, focused intensity of the skilled Interrogation Dominatrix that I am. This is female domination phone sex at its most extreme.
 
Will Medical Torture be the answer that opens you? The threat of an operating table with no anesthesia… needles, scalpel, bone saw, etc… or perhaps just the sound of that drill as it approaches your teeth… or maybe your cock?
 
The application of certain drugs works well… temazepam, scopolamine, ethanol, or good old sodium pentothal? Proper administration of these, mixed with the right sort of "encouragement" can lead to such a wonderful little talk between the two of us.
 
I particularly enjoy the application of medieval torture devices when breaking down a captive… the torture techniques of the Inquisition can be extremely effective, and fit forced femdom perfectly. We have a number of well stocked torture chambers for exactly this purpose, down here in our corner of hell. Like I said, domination phone sex at its most sadistic, its most extreme. The kind of BDSM you're used to is a cute fetish game compared to what we have in mind.
 
Of course long femdom sessions of extreme CBT - Cock and Ball Torture - are a must. Maybe I will be very, very gentle at first, toying with you until you're desperate to cum… then I'll shift gears horribly to savage your swollen balls and hard cock… whipping and clawing at them to leave you hanging for hours just on the edge of orgasm until you scream out the answers I want, all in the desperate hope I will finally let you cum. Yes, femdom CBT works so very well on the reluctant male animal.
 
Once you are delivered to me I will see just what "key" unlocks you… and then I will turn it very, very slowly to make sure I get everything I want.
 
For those of you new to the unique pleasures of the Interrogation Fetish, this type of forced femdom session goes beyond the surface elements of extreme bondage and sexual torture, or for that matter even female domination and male submission, into a very powerful and intimate scenario of helplessness, vulnerability, and eventual dependence that can be limited to a single session, or better cultivated over a series of repeated "questionings".

Domina Amanda
Forced Femdom Phone Sex - 1-800-730-0391 
 

"Beyond domination phone sex or common femdom stories…

Beyond female domination into a place where BDSM takes on its most extreme form…

Here your submission will be forced from you, even if you have no desire to resist…

Here the male is prey to the female… and a woman's heart is cold - Femdom Pit of Hell"

"The natural compliment to female domination, is male submission…

And the natural compliment to female superiority, is obviously male inferiority…

or perhaps more simply put…

The existence of the dominatrix, results in the male's proper place as slave - Female Domination"

I like fear… especially the feeling of power it gives me. I like seeing the fearful apprehension in the eyes of a captive bound helpless before me… the way their body shakes when I approach… the shift in their breathing when I first touch them… the look on their face when I show them the whip in my hand… how their body recoils when it first strikes their flesh… the obvious arousal they receive as a result of it, even as they bite their gag and gasp/scream. I can't begin to describe how good it feels… how satisfying… how much I look forward to each opportunity. BDSM style foreplay to bondage sex ~grinz dreamy~.
 
I don't "need" this feeling to create a sense of importance or strength in myself, and it's not a necessity for me to get off sexually. I am quite normal… well, overall ~laughs~. I just admit that having control over another person in as absolute a way as possible both excites me and feels "right" to me. Female domination itself feels right to me. And I do take this to an extreme beyond most who otherwise just dabble - and oh how wonderful it does feel to go where others fear to tread ~grinz~.
 
But this enjoyment of control and want to have it, isn't an uncommon desire… many, if not most, feel it in some way, even those for who the condition of power and domination is merely an illusion or propped up facade. Look at day-to-day life and think of the difference between what it feels like giving the orders and having to take them. The workplace for example, I think everyone has at sometime wished they were "the boss" or "manager". "Being in charge" and "getting your way" is a common dream imagined to be wonderful, especially when we are confronted with all of the frustrations and doubts that are the reality of life. People feel like they have no control over their lives, and that if somehow they could gain control of what surrounds them, all would be right.
 
"Imagining" is a key point here… even though many may wish to be the boss, that doesn't mean most people are meant to be. Most aren't, which is why true leaders stand out so clear in "the crowd" - they make followers out of the wannabe leaders. Dreams usually don't include all of the responsibility and challenge that comes with leadership, and when faced with such in reality, most people cant handle these things as well as their fantasy selves would, or for that matter, end up enjoying the role near as much as they imagined they would. So yes… the desire for control is common… but not all can live up to it. They may imagine it to be "right" for them, but when the chance for it comes, it just isn't.
 
Now don't confuse what I'm saying here… I'm not trying to imply that most people are secretly sadists, or love to see submission and fear (though many do in some ways - seeing another submit can infuse feelings of power in another person, even if they don't really deserve them)… I'm only talking about control and the root desire to "be the boss" that many have. But connecting this to myself… not only do I personally enjoy being in control of others, I actually am one of those rare individuals who deserves to be, because like all leader types with strong personalities, I make followers out of those I come into contact with, and I am capable of retaining my position and handling the responsibility that comes with it.
 
The added difference with me is that I take this desire, and my natural dominant instinct to darker level. It's something I like to do, and something I can do when I wish it. Am I exploiting the strengths of my personality, the gifts nature has given me that put me above others… of course I am. To do less would be to waste of my potential ~smiles~. Female superiority is a blessing, why waste it.

Domina Amanda

BDSM Phone Sex - 1-800-356-6169
 

Continued in Part XXIV - Female Domination

"Strict orgasm denial by a hot ass demoness that will drive you insane…

Domina Amanda… cock tease and domination beyond anything you can handle - Tease and Denial"

"This whip is a naturally erotic creature…

it loves to touch and caress… to kiss and lick and excite…

It's the perfect companion for a dark seductress to play with - Bondage Sex"

I have a new Free Erotic Audio up on the Cock Control Forum entitled - "Either Way You'll Thank Me" - a fetish lesson in the sensual wonders of the braided single tail whip - a personal favorite that I truly do adore… and this femdom scene should make it very clear as to just how much.
 
Click - "Are you going to let me show you how much you’ll enjoy this whip… or are you afraid?"
 
The wonderful, arousing feel of the leather whip in my hands is such a turn-on that I almost forgot you're here… almost… but then, the only thing better than holding a whip in your hands, is using it to decorate the flesh of a bound slave. Will you submit to my lash, or will you be forced to learn how lovely its caress is? Willingly is good, but forced femdom is so wonderful… so resist… go ahead ~laughs~. 
 
This erotic audio is located in the a public forum and does not require an account to access. It is less graphic that others available in private sections of that board, but still has a wonderful BDSM edge to it. Want more? Have no fear… the Dark Seductress has many more recordings waiting for you, including ones of a much more graphic nature… but you'll have to create and account with Cock Control Forum to listen to those.
 
I was serious when I said I hope you resist. Bondage sex gets me off and your chained body is going to be forced to experience every sadistic thing I want to do to it… and I will love doing it… just as I love this whip.
 
The rest of my fetish collection can be found here - Free Erotic Audio - and when you're ready to talk to me about the real thing - Domination Phone Sex.

Domina Amanda
Phone Bondage Sex - 1-800-356-6169

"Not just forced femdom, but everything in BDSM that you can imagine…

From dominatrix to cock tease… bondage to bratty flirt - Free Erotic Audio Clips"

"The whip will help you swiftly realize you are a slave now… 

I have no interest in your sexuality… only my pleasure is my concern…

Forced femdom will teach you the way… BDSM will provide the lesson plan…

And your instructor… a leather gloved dominatrix - Phone Humiliation"

Many people see Degradation as being the same thing as humiliation (the male sexual form), but I like to think of it as being its own sub-fetish within the same fundamental category. Degradation seeks to attack someone's reputation, position, name, etc. What is dealt with here aren't simply insults, but specific damage to a person's identity and perceived status… not necessarily public in form but quite possible (and considering my love of exhibitionism, truly is quite possible ~laughs~). For example, in a way I particularly love - knocking someone down from their pedestal… forcing them to be the lowest, filthiest slave, making them serve in the most vile of ways, so that in their humiliation they are seen as the worthless garbage they really are (and sometimes feel themselves to be)… regardless of who and what they may "pretend" to be in their daily life. There are numerous people out there who deserve to have this happen to them… but there are also others who seek it out on their own.
 
There are many I have met who hold powerful jobs full of responsibility, who seek submission in their private lives. They find great relief through these femdom sessions - giving up the control that so dominates their day, for the simplicity of having no responsibility other than doing what they are told. But I have also found one's who seek true degradation as a further part of this, doing so almost as if they are performing some sort of penance for the heavy handed behaviors that are a part of their professional careers. Their stories are quite interesting - men who hold the livelihood of others in their hands, or whose success means the total failure of a competitor… and who hold feelings of guilt mixed with their achievements as a result. Submission, punishment and sexual humiliation, become a release for them that is not only enjoyed sexually, but they believe makes it easier for them to live their lives. Degradation can be femdom of a cathartic form.
 
And then there is Objectification, a fetish I particularly enjoy - taking a human being and slowly breaking them down into something not human… perhaps something of as little worth as possible or whose worth is found in something quite foreign to what we would commonly associate with a living, independent person. A thing that is viewed only as a simple object set to either do very limited or specific tasks, or absolutely nothing at all. Removal of identity and the systematic destruction of will to a point where that person ceases to be a person when with me… remaining only as something to be used in the most blunt definition of that word, with none of the consideration given to them that one would another human being. Objectification, in some ways, creates the most literal example of a "possession" possible, while still being alive. This takes a very focused form of domination and male humiliation, leading to potentially very intense femdom scenes when brought to fruition, because you have to limit your interaction with the "object" to just what fits them, in terms of conversation, direction and detachment from basic human emotion and sympathy. It takes a subject that must be developed into this form over time, because of the intensity involved both in how they are to act, and how they later on react to what they are doing and what is being done to them (especially if inclusive of public display).
 
I have a number of forced femdom stories I could tell of objectification that reflect this… for example, one with a forced feminization theme - I once had a slave boy I broke down into a near inanimate sex toy - beautifully pure objectification. When he was to be used I would dress him in thigh high boots, or stockings, garter-belt and high heels but always with a leather hood that covered his entire face, excepting mouth and nose. He would be led to whatever event by a leash… his lips painted red, his ass well greased, and his cock bound. He would then be put into position - be it simply on hands and knees, or bound on a horse, in stocks, etc. - and left there for the night for public use orally and anally, over and over, without expression, comment, or complaint. He would be whipped if he made a single sound, and denied my attentions for weeks on end for any noise.
 
I know forced feminization mixed with sexual use of this extreme shocks many, but I also know many of the same secretly are aroused by the idea ~laughs~. The feminization of this particular slave is still continuing, though I gave him to a shemale friend for further physical development. The last thing I had done to him was an augmentation of his lips, making them very full and perfect for cock sucking. "He" is still regularly used as an open sexual object at various private BDSM events. I am told the most he ass has serviced so far in a single night is 37 different cocks (majority shemale) and strapons, with 33 swallowed loads of cum. What a fucking whore ~laughs~.
 
More femdom stories of objectification - a friend of mine who used to train "artistic" human ashtrays. Example - one had a form of elaborate posture collar rigged into a latex straight jacket leading into full bodysuit. The slave could be made to sit or kneel with his head up, and then locked into place - face exposed but the rest of his head covered in tight latex locked by straps to the collar. Obviously his training in part was to build up tolerance for the positioning. When taken to a party, he would spend the night on public display collecting and swallowing the ashes and butts of guests. A slave like this must be made into an exhibitionist on top of being excited by objectification and masochism - a form of public humiliation more specifically defined.

Domina Amanda

Domination Phone Sex - 1-800-356-6169
 

Continued in Part XXIII - Female Domination

"Forced femdom stories of degradation, objectification, public humiliation…

…cold cruelty and perverse BDSM by dominant women who love to see you suffer - Male Humiliation"

"The first in a new series of BDSM phone sex sites dedicated to sadistic, dominant women…

Part of the Femdom Pit of Hell… a devilish bondage playground for the dominatrix…

where the male slave is a toy to be played with very roughly - Domination Phone Sex"

The Demoness Amanda has joined a new LDW Domination Phone Sex site - Domination Hell - a fetish connection for all of you out there who are seeking extreme BDSM and forced femdom sessions focused on heavier forms of bondage and strict, uncompromising female domination. Not for the faint of heart and not for those wanting to be coddled into their submission… this is a true femdom dungeon set up for only the most ruthless sadomasochistic scenes. The staff here has sworn to make this a place alive with sexual torture, taken to the point where pain and pleasure blur. Each dark chamber holds a cold, sadistic dominatrix who only wants to exploit the masochism within you, dragging you deep down into the depths of forced femdom and forbidden perversion.
 
To read my personal teaser just Click Here - Female Domination Sex - Demoness Amanda - Domination Hell
 
I know none of you are wondering why I would join a site like this… ~laughs~… those of you who are familiar with me, be it through conversation, or even just this blog alone, know that the theme of this site fits my personality perfectly - of all that I am involved with, in many ways this phone sex site is the one I am most at home in. A true dark seductress… bitch barking isn't really my style… highly sexual, deeply perverse, and evil in the hottest, sexiest ways imaginable… you fucking bet that's me. The word "demoness" well fits what I am - a dangerously beautiful female who devours her prey… a bold, confident woman of dark desires who knows only her way.
 
This is domination phone sex that I intend to have a lot of fun with… and the toy I will be playing very roughly with, is you. Make damn sure you're prepared for what's to come if you decide to enter here… I love this fucking shit and I will not be holding back once I get my hands on you. I intend to truly enjoy myself, and forced femdom sessions are one of my favorite ways to do so… now you'll see a real Demoness in her full glory and what a dominatrix is like when she lets her BDSM desires run wild.
 
Domina Amanda
Female Domination Phone Sex - 1-800-730-9391
 

"Beyond cute BDSM play and common phone sex…

Beyond female domination and male sexual submission…

Extreme bondage sex and strict discipline are your unquestioned fate…

Here you'll be forced to learn what sadism really means - Femdom Pit of Hell"

"You enjoy public humiliation? Well, I'm a sadist who enjoys exhibitionism…

 …and that means you're going to learn to perform in front of crowds ~laughs~

Dozens of shocked eyes looking at you in disgust - Male Humiliation Phone Sex"

I do definitely look forward to time spent with those deeply into femdom humiliation and for that matter, masochists in general… and the knowledge that they love it too just makes it all the better. As twisted as outsiders might view such a relationship, it can actually be very close, and in a sense can grow to be even more committed than "normal" relationships, due to the levels of trust, dependency, and vulnerability that come to be involved (though things can also sour into annoyance if the slave loses perspective and becomes overly greedy in his need. Remember, submission also means - don't forget your place).
 
There is something very liberating for me in taking firm hold of a degradation whore, letting my darkness go off on him/her… more than just total domination with a nasty sadistic edge, but the freedom to take another human being and use that person as a pure, exploitable object. There is an uplifting sense of power to it that is a mad rush… but one requiring a dominant female with a solid sense of self-control who while enjoying the power, can still behave responsibly… as I can. Plus a "victim" who understands what he is seeking - masochism - and truly wants what he is about to receive… to put things mildly ~smiles~ (idiots who seek out this fetish in whatever form, enjoying the hell out of it while it is happening to them, but who then proceed to freak out soon after, as if everything is everyone else's fault and they had no idea, are a total fucking headache - look before you leap, stupid, and don't let your sexual desires race beyond your reality).
 
My love of exhibitionism makes me especially likely to instigate displays of public humiliation… this can range from simple things like slapping a man in a crowded place and berating him for the worthless fool he obviously is, humiliating him badly under the eyes of all those present (the "audience" being no more than random bystanders totally oblivious to any deeper reasons behind what is going on)… to more complex scenarios that take planning and development over time, an example of which would be financial domination and the setting up of a consensual blackmail relationship - building it up slowly from the point of initial contact… eventually reaching full out financial domination, where the victim is running himself ragged to meet demands… and progressing finally to exposure, where the source of the blackmail is fully revealed, and the victim is left to face the consequences, trapped in whatever resulting degradation was waiting for him (again, even though the words "financial domination blackmail" have an illegal sounding edge to them, the fetish I am speaking of is all consensual and structured every step of the way).
 
Being in public and having an audience always takes things to another level, not just for my target, but also for me. It's bad enough for the helpless victim that he is made to look like a fool in front of me, but when you start adding other people, especially those who have no idea what is really going on, the effect intensifies very quickly. Each pair of eyes is another level of shame, and each gasp, shocked look, and laugh just compounds this further. I like to perform in public as it is… not just because I enjoy sexual humiliation, but because the blend of exhibitionism and sadism is just so damn perfect for me. So doing everything from having sex in public, to being served by a slave in a crowded place that doesn't cater to such things, is welcome to me. As a result, I am quick to train people into public humiliation and develop the exhibitionist lurking within them, primarily because I look forward to it so much myself ~laughs~, but obviously also because if they are really into sexual humiliation, they will get off on it so much more this way.

Domina Amanda

Female Domination Phone Sex - 1-800-356-6169
 

Continued in Part XXII - Degradation

"So you like being slapped in public, well who the fuck cares, shithead…

I will show you how I define exhibitionism… it starts with the word 'sadism'…

and ends with you looking like the moron you are in front of a laughing crowd.

This dominatrix sees female domination as a spectator sport ~laughs~ - Public Humiliation"

"The small penis humiliation and cruel verbal abuse you know you deserve… 

Done by a vicious dominatrix in thigh high leather boots, who delights in sadism…

Obey her every command of she may use the stiletto heels on those boots…

to do a lot more than laugh at your small penis - Male Humiliation Phone Sex"

In BDSM, the intent in sexual humiliation isn't abuse in the absolute sense of the word. One isn't trying to cause anyone permanent injury or lasting harm… that isn't the point (again, I'm talking about humiliation the fetish here - while it doesn't have to be overtly sexual in form, the motivation is sexual stimulation). The intent is to provoke intense feelings of shame and embarrassment in the given person, through actions and situations that are intentionally humiliating. Not so one person can just hurt another, but so both people can take pleasure in what is being done. While some experience pleasure through physical pain, for others the pain of embarrassment and shame alone gives them feelings of excitement and euphoria (though infliction of physical pain in a femdom session, for example, can easily cause these same feelings of shame due to the dynamic of the domination / submission scene). Usually though, there will be a blending of many different triggers that will lead to sexual fulfillment of this kind.
 
For example, I mentioned the use of a whip earlier. It's application in BDSM not only causes physical pain for the one on the receiving end, it also invokes degrees of fear, vulnerability, submission, etc., along with the knowledge that what is being enjoyed is not approved of by society - it's something others would be shocked by and think is wrong. All of this makes the act exciting, blending and building to make the scene ever more intense and more enjoyable. While an example of pure sexual humiliation, as a fetish form, would be something like small penis humiliation, in which nothing at all need be done to the subject except insults and laughter directed at his pindick to cause obious male shame. This can of course be developed much more, and coupled with other activities to heighten effect… but in the end, small penis humiliation really only requires what the name itself suggests.
 
Society's standards play an obvious part in all of this, since what we deem to be acceptable or shameful is often delineated by what society expects or approves of, be it one's behavior, appearance, or beliefs (small penis humiliation takes us back to an interesting example in this - how much the manhood and virility of the male is seen to be tied to his penis - insulting this thus attacks much more than his genitalia, it attacks his entire selfworth as a man). BDSM in general is filled with sexual practices that are rejected by the vast majority of people, and thus these choices all carry a stigma of sorts to them that opens practitioners to possible ridicule, rejection, and scandal. But if this weren't the case then the point would be greatly lost for the masochist, who sees pleasure in that which holds society’s displeasure… one can't be shamed by what isn't considered shameful.
 
But the focus and end result in all of this isn't solely embarrassment, there is much more that sexual humiliation and the acts responsible for it brings out in those involved. Feelings of fear, vulnerability, helplessness, exposure, dependency, weakness, dehumanization, etc., all pour from the masochist, building on top of one another. All of these are very powerful emotions related to that central theme of suffering… and powerful emotions cause powerful reactions within us that when connected to one's sexuality, naturally cause great stimulation in the individual. The "sadist" in this, or person who is committing the act, is affected by what she is doing in her own way, but instead of facing shame or helplessness, she is fed feelings of power and strength through humiliating another person… demonstrating the complimentary nature of the two parts. The sadist needs someone to abuse, while the masochist needs someone to do the abusing… as things proceed, the increasing suffering of the masochist stimulates the sadist more, while making the masochist feel more vulnerable and excited in turn.
 
For some people, sexual humiliation and that which is otherwise related to the fetish, can actually be somewhat cathartic, purging them of deeply held emotions in need of an outlet that is safe and controlled. That's not to say that in all cases this is completely healthy, for there are people who take these things to levels beyond what one should, for reasons that are not at all good. But when within responsible bounds, involving sensible people with their eyes open, the participants are normally much happier for it.

Domina Amanda

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Continued in Part XXI - Public Humiliation

"Keep your pants on little boy, there is obviously nothing worth seeing down there…

You don't have what it takes to be a male sex slave… but you are going to serve…

You are going to be a servant… foot and leg masseuse… gutter boy…

And when I want to fuck something with this big, thick strapon… 

you'll be bent over and used like a girl you are ~laughs~ - Small Penis Humiliation"